Prevention is Protection: Tangible Tips to Keep Children Safe from Abuse

In part one of this series, we explored how to compassionately respond if a child discloses abuse. In part two, we’re moving from response to prevention. Together, let’s take steps to prevent abuse from happening, shifting to a culture grounded in proactive care. 

Start with Education

One of the most effective tools we have in preventing child abuse is education – early, honest, and shame-free. Teaching kids about their bodies, emotions, and personal boundaries builds a foundation of trust and safety. Start young and use clear, age-appropriate language. Help children understand the difference between safe and unsafe touch, and use anatomically correct terms for body parts. Don’t shy from calling it what it is; euphemisms can often create confusion and make it harder for children to report inappropriate behavior. Using accurate names for body parts reduces shame, builds body awareness, and helps children communicate clearly. 

Talking Tips:

• “Just like we say “elbow” or “knees,” we also say “penis,” or “vagina.” These are just parts of the body. Every part has a name, and it’s okay to talk about them.”

• “It’s important to know the right words so that you can tell me or a doctor if something hurts or feels weird.” 

• “Using the correct terms for our bodies isn’t weird or gross – it’s just being informed and respectful. The more we understand our bodies, the more confident and safe we can feel.”

• “If anyone touches you in a way you don’t like, or asks you to touch them, you can always say no and tell me or another trusted adult.”

• Bonus: Talking to Kids about Safety & Boundaries

Create a Culture of Consent and Communication

Empower children to say “no.” It can be tempting to encourage politeness or compliance, but kids need to know their “no” matters. Whether it’s declining a hug or expressing discomfort, support them when they speak up. If you’re child tells you they feel uncomfortable around any adult, believe them and take the steps necessary to ensure their safety. Normalize open conversations about safety and consent. These discussions should evolve with age – what’s appropriate for a five-year-old looks different from what a teen needs to know, but the message remains the same: their body, their choice.

Talking Tips:

• “Consent means asking for permission and waiting for an answer. For example, you ask ‘Can I give you a hug?’ and if they say no, that’s okay!”

• “No one has the right to touch you without your permission - whether it’s a peer, coach, or someone in a position of power.”

• “If someone is too close or makes you uncomfortable, it’s okay to move away or say, 'stop’.” 

• “Boundaries are like invisible lines that help keep you feeling safe. You get to decide who is allowed in your personal space.”

• “You don’t owe anyone physical affection or attention.”

• Bonus: Talking to Pre-Teens & Teens about Consent

Preventing abuse isn’t about fear – it’s about trust. When kids feel safe and supported, they’re more likely to speak up before something becomes harmful. Foster an environment where questions are welcomed and feelings are validated. Through education, boundary-setting, and open communication, we can empower the next generation to protect themselves – and trust that the adults in their lives will protect them too. 

Not sure where to start? Check out these resources to get the conversation going: 

• Sis & Me: Down by the Sea

• Sex Positive Talks to Have with Kids